Why am I writing this post? Guess someone had just touched a sensitive spot in my heart....
I have a few raw nerves, which are particularly tender and hidden most of the time, away from view but highly sensitive and easily triggered.
Seriously, is it our society at large, the government policies, educational system, high standard of living, materialistic nature of our people or what?? Few seems to be able to see the value of having a mother at home with the kids, worse, many undermined the contribution of these women. The government tells u "all abled body, young n old, men n women, we need u to contribute to society by WORKING, generating income. So yes, for women who work, relief for these, help for that, more day care facilities etc etc etc. Look at our women MPs, all high flyer blar blar blar.... for those who chose to stay at home, urmmm, we will, perhaps we may come to u someday (someday after we managed to create more ELITE, after we encouraged more to work, after we make retirement age 70, after..............)", our elders tell u "spent so much on education, u must work, so next time u have $$ to retire, we'll take care of ur kid (n spoil them rotten).... ", acquaintances and friends say "wah good life ah. Tai Tai ah........", ur life partner may go "my colleague's wife make so much, so much, so much... who n who is so worried their wives will quit their jobs.... I don't have anything to give u, don't expect me to help with ur family (but I want to change to a bigger car)... bcos u don't work, I have to blar blar blar (translate to u're not contributing, u don't deserve to have MY $$, it's ur duty to take care of the child urself without rest for the peanuts I'm giving u, and u better spend those peanuts WISELY......)....
Am I the only one? I'm certain I'm not. We r a forgotten bunch - forgotten by society, forgotten by loved ones. Some with older kids, they r probably being forgotten by the ones they painstakingly raised n nurtured, being taken as a shame, because they had missed out on a part of social progression, outdated now. If this is how u feel about ur mothers, the hand that raised u, the one who put u first among others, shame on u!
People out there, next time u meet a mother who has chosen to stay home with her children, the best thing u can say to her is "U r doing a fine job. I applaud u for your decision". Stop sniggering remarks like "Wah Tai Tai, leading good life ah. Nothing to do". If u really think it's ez, try doing it urself!
Perhaps I'd reacted too strongly to a comment that came from one who wasn't even a crucial figure in my life but enough is enough......
